When is it time to leave a ministry? What a great question. I think if there were a definitive answer for when to resign from a church in book form it would top the charts. Personally, I’m probably the least qualified pastor in the world to offer an answer, except for the fact that I’ve done it (left a ministry) multiple times – the fact is that I wonder if I ever did it the right way – if there even is a right way.
One problem is we all have a different perspective of the gifts and callings of God and the organization, calling and employment of the local church. Even though the Bible may be crystal clear, we all have our viewpoint, based on our upbringing, our biblical literacy, our personal maturity and remnants of our ‘flesh’ – the selfishness and pride that we contend with throughout our life with Christ. We all come at questions like this with a somewhat colored, or biased, perspective. So everyone will see the issue, unfortunately, through a slightly different lens, making it difficult to outline a definitive rule. Reading a book or personalizing someone else’s reality won’t work, we’re all too different and our situations are each unique.
This is not to say there is no answer to your dilemma, it’s just that it is not as clear-cut as we might hope. Let me offer a few ideas that might help you gain a wider view. … Read more
For thus says the Lord: After seventy years are completed at Babylon, I will visit you and perform My good word toward you, and cause you to return to this place. For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back from your captivity; I will gather you from all the nations and from all the places where I have driven you, says the Lord, and I will bring you to the place from which I cause you to be carried away captive. Jeremiah 29:10-14 (italics added)
King Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon had laid siege on Jerusalem, conquering the city and requiring Judah to pay tribute (tax) to the King. Over the course of 70 disheartening years, much of Jerusalem was destroyed and many of the people were marched as captives to Babylon, a trip of 500-900 miles, depending on the route. It is to these exiled captives that God sends a personal message through the pen of Jeremiah.
Have you ever felt trapped either as a result of bad choices or through no particular fault of your own? Found yourself far from home with only fading dreams of how it used to be or how you had hoped it would all work out, but reality took a sharp turn in a direction you never planned? You cry out to God in desperation or maybe anger, but He seems silent. Distant. Some in the ranks of the children of Israel may have felt this way, driven from their homes, put out of their country, separated from friends. Psalm 137 suggests that when it says they just sat down by a river and cried as they thought about what they
“By the rivers of Babylon, There we sat down, yea, we wept When we remembered Zion.” Psalm 137:1
They knew what it was like to be at the end of the rope. You may know the feeling, too. It’s not fun. A word of hope in the midst of that storm would feel pretty good. It would be nice to know that someone was thinking about you, that someone remembered you and loved you. Something like that might help you rise above your unseemly circumstances and keep walking, keep standing, keep pressing on.
Life happens whether or not you are paying attention.
Life doesn’t wait until you are focused and ready and have a plan. Life is bound by time and time doesn’t stop for anyone. Well, it stopped for Elijah one strange, ancient day, when God made an exception to His own rule, but that doesn’t happen very often, that is, once in history as far as we know.
Time is relentless which is part of the reason why life is precious. Time and life are bound together and yet time isn’t life and life isn’t time.
Life exists within time, at least on the physical plain, so to truly live is to be present, watchful and aware. To experience each moment to the fullest and never hold back and never allow our lives to be dictated by distraction.
There comes a day for each person when time will cease but life will not, life will go on outside of the realm within which it began. This is eternal life and it is the gift of the eternal God to His beloved creation. Life with Him. Outside space and time. But it begins here with life as we know it. Life into which we are thrown (that is, born) kicking and screaming. Then, when we accomplish our days, this life will end and the next will begin, an outside-of-time, forever-life based in large part on the choices we made during our relatively brief experience in space and time.
For now we are stuck with the clock which keeps moving, rolling steady like the tide, marching in lockstep like a platoon, precisely, smoothly, constant no matter what the circumstances of life: sleep, peace, war, pain, longing, separation, joy, birth, dying – time is steadfast through it all.
Time is without emotion, it simply moves forward without consideration of whether or not we think it is moving too slowly, like enduring Freshman English, or too quickly, as when we are watching our children grow like weeds before our very eyes. Seconds become minutes, hours, days, months and before you realize it another year has passed and you’re in your fifties and wondering where the time went. … Read more
Some of us have really thin skin. Sometimes the mildest comment or bodily gesture can send us into a full-blown fit. If we feel that we’ve been disrespected or taken for granted or demeaned in any way, watch out.
My wife used to really battle PMS. As a young couple we didn’t identify the culprit in her shorter-than-normal fuse early enough in life to avoid losing our tempers with one another routinely during her monthly period which we affectionately called ‘her time of the week’. We thought she just had a short red-headed temper. After a few years of high volume frustration we finally discovered that her problem was biological – a fact which let her off the hook to some extent because of the unseen craziness going on inside her body which threw her emotions completely off kilter.
I, however, was without excuse. … Read more